Kenya Divas

The best thing about sharing an apartment with a friend is the sharing of costs on things like groceries, rent and the like. Chichi and I have been sharing an apartment for the past year and apart from her leaving the lights on at night, we pretty much get along.
With our busy schedules, it seems the only day we get to buy groceries is Saturdays and that has become an integral part of our Saturday routine.
About two weekends ago, we were at a supermarket buying groceries. As usual, we had not written a list of the things we needed in the house. We thought it would be automatic, the moment we enter the supermarket we would know what is missing in the house. Talk about lack of organization. So as we both stood in different aisles of the supermarket, we tried to remember what we needed to buy and what was already in the house. By the time we finished shopping, we ended up with too many toilet papers, no salt or cooking fat. That is what happens when you go shopping without a grocery list.

This reminds me so much of the time I was younger; that day my sisters and I were seated on the big couch at home listening to my mother insist on us writing a prayer list of the qualities we wanted in our future husbands. At the time the idea of putting down that kind of prayer list was far fetched. So I shunned it.

Now when I think about my Saturday grocery list, I realize how similar it is to that prayer list my mother told us to write down that day, many years ago. I look back and realize that mom knew best, as all mothers do, and wish I’d written down my list.

It is important to know what you want in your future marriage partner; what kind of man you want to be in a relationship /marriage with. Think about it this way, when Chichi and I went to the supermarket without a list of what we needed, we practically bought everything. We ended up wasting a lot of money on things we did not need or would not even use and we also time wandering about the supermarket.

When it comes to a relationship, without that prayer list of, two things are likely to happen; one, you might waste your time looking for someone you do not know therefore even missing out on good people or two, you might end up with a person you do not want when you realize later on they are not what you had in mind.

I have friends who tell me of certain prayers they made concerning the kind of partners they wanted and they got exactly that. At the end of the day, God knows what we need in our lives and at the same time, He sees the desires of our hearts. Try making that list.

Saturday is no where near but having learnt our lesson, Chichi and I already have a list stuck on the refrigerator door reminding us of what we need to buy the next time we go grocery shopping.

Patricia Miswa