The best way to smell the coffee from far is seeking God's direction at every stage in life. In those red-rose moments only God can make you see the big thorns sticking out of the sweet nothings that tilt every woman out of balance.

Especially where it's before marriage, keeping one's legs together is of utmost importance. It will never be old-fashioned looking before one leaps. It's wisdom.

In the instance where one has been caught off-guard it is still worth trusting God to provide than going through the agony; courts, begging and when one runs out of ideas turns into a men-hater.

The same God who cares for widows and orphans is the very same God who provides for a single mother who trusts and obeys Him.

God will never withhold anything good from a Diva who is walking uprightly; one who is enhancing her inner beauty. Also, to attract the responsible man a Diva ought to be responsible in all her ways at all times.

Someone said: Rarely will a cow graze with a hen because they feed on different foods and speak different languages.

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Despite the challenges, our mothers have strived to give us the best and in return we say "Thank You Mums."

It is also a day to forgive our mothers for whatever wrong they have done to us because they are human and also they hold a vital key to our blessings.

"Honour your (father and) mother so that it may be well with you, and that you may live long on the earth"

There is no single person who holds bitterness, unforgiveness, hates or dishonours her mother ever finds peace, joy and true love in life. So today, extend that warm hug, pat or at least a kind word to your mum and ALL WILL BE WELL WITH YOU.

Mummies we love you for the challenges you have gone through to ensure we get the best.

 ~~You are highly appreciated ~~

 

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Mary is one of millions of men and women (including myself) who do not have families because of a covert campaign of psychological warfare waged against heterosexual society. This Rockefeller-sponsored program of social engineering and eugenics is waged under the guise of "feminism" and "equality.". The pill, sexual liberation and the mainstreaming of homosexuality are all part of it. 

The aim is to degrade depopulate and destabilize humanity by divorcing sex from procreation and by pretending gender roles are social and not biological in origin.

Women have been brainwashed to usurp the male role and abandon the female. The resulting conflict and confusion leads to a breakdown of marriage and family. This produces dysfunctional people who are obsessed with sex and look to the corporate media and state for values and direction.

WOMEN'S SELF DEFEATING BEHAVIOR
Mary identifies the nub of the problem: men "just want sex and refuse to commit."
Young women today act like sex is the only way to attract men. They try to parlay sex appeal into lasting love and family. This is self-defeating. It is sending the wrong message to men.

Ladies, if you want love and family, do not present yourself in sexual terms. Why try to differentiate yourself in terms that practically any young woman can provide? No wonder you are dumped!

Instead present yourself as potential life partners: wives and mothers. In other words, dress modestly and prepare to be indispensable to the man and children you will love. Learn the skills of a homemaker and helpmate.

Yesterday a female cashier at Safeway shocked me by smiling. I quickly realized that it was part of her job. Female charm (warmth, grace, cheerfulness, attentiveness, modesty) have been crushed under the jackboot of feminism.

Ladies, make sure a man is worthy of you. Don't get involved with sexual nomads who haven't time for courtship and marriage.

Sex is the sacred ritual of procreation. Sex should always take place in the context of love, preferably marriage.

Our children are literally part of us. They represent our organic growth. It is healthy, natural and normal to feel possessive about them. They are us.

PROMISCUITY

 

Promiscuity is not normal or natural for heterosexuals. As I have said elsewhere, the heterosexual bond is built on trust. Trust is based on monogamy.

The Illuminist cult that rules the world portrays traditional morality as "old fashioned." Traditional morality represents the accumulated wisdom of mankind regarding happiness. Our moral conduct contributes more to our health than diet and exercise.

Monogamy is good for men too. A friend wrote: "Men get their sense of self worth from the love and respect they get from their families, the honest production they create at the work place and they feel good about what they are doing when they believe that they are building a better world for their children. All of this has been taken from us Henry. It is so sickening that very few men have the courage to look at any part of it."

Women also depend on a man (their husband) for personal fulfillment. This is why they obsess about love and marriage.
In marriage, a man assumes a responsibility to fulfill his wife as a woman, i.e. as a life partner and mother. Women are different from men. They are instruments, vehicles. They need to be cared for and used for a higher purpose or they will rot on the vine or explode with frustration.

Sex is a small part of life. We live in a bizarre precarious world and we need to choose real people with character and ability to be our mates. Love grows from day-to-day caring over a long period of time.

THE FOCUS OF MARRIAGE
Marriage is not about sex and mutual adoration. That gets boring fast. It is about getting things done, doing God's work at home and in society.

They've tried to discredit God by blaming Him for everything that goes wrong. God is not a fixer: He is a spiritual ideal: absolute truth, justice, goodness and love. Our ability to perceive these ideals is what makes us human.

We are intended to embody these ideals and bring them into the world. If we don't, it won't happen and we will deservedly suffer the consequences. So will our progeny. Most people care about their children but pay little heed to the real state of the world they will inhabit.

Thus the proper focus of marriage is not the man and woman, but on God. In particular, the man should have a vision of how he will serve God. The wife should choose a man whose vision she can share.

What do women really want? They want to weave a web of love. This is a family devoted to spiritual ideals.

 Blog copied verbatim from: http://www.savethemales.ca/000585.html

 

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With valentine's joys and maybe some tears fading away or still thumping on, let's get down to know how best to enjoy our singlehood; as we prepare to remain single for life or get married sometime in the future.

 Feel free to login and share your inner thoughts on singlehood.

 

 

I came across this on the net and felt it would be good sharing with Kenya Divas – as one who has fornicated and worked out to drop the habit.

My hope is that this site will handle the topic of sex more thoroughly and enlighten every diva on the subject.

Staying Pure in a Fornication Nation

You don't have to compromise with our sex-saturated culture. By God's grace you can stay in the sexual safety zone.

There were some raised eyebrows last week on the campus of Southeastern University in Lakeland, Fla., when I hosted a special meeting—the day before Valentine's Day—on the subject of fornication. That's not a word you normally associate with a lecture topic, but hey, I had to get attention. And since the hormones on most college campuses are as dense as Florida humidity, I figured the kids would be all ears when I attacked the subject.

I was right. At times you could hear a pin drop in the auditorium, especially when I talked about how most American young people aren't even sure how to define sexual activity anymore. (Today's college seniors were nine years old when President Clinton tried to redefine sex during the Lewinsky scandal.) At other times the students burst into nervous laughter, especially when I told how I gave my son-in-law a lecture about sexual boundaries in front of 700 of his classmates when he was dating my oldest daughter.

I thought it might be helpful to share these key points with a wider audience, since many of the readers of this column are single. And even if you are married, it would be good to take a quick refresher course in self-control—since we live in a nation that is losing all moral restraint. Here's what I told the group at Southeastern:

1. Don't redefine your morality. I've seen Christian young people roll their eyes when I say the word "fornication" because it sounds so much like King James English—sort of like "sodomy," another word we avoid in our PC culture. But we need to be careful how we bend the meaning of words. Terms that are in the Bible should not vanish from our modern vocabulary just because they offend some of the hosts of The View.

When "fornication" is used in 1 Thessalonians 4:3 ("For this is the will of God ... that ye should abstain from fornication" KJV), the Greek word is porneia. It's the root word for pornography, but it means a lot more than sexually explicit material. It includes sex between unmarried people, homosexuality, bestiality, prostitution, incest and adultery.

According to the apostle Paul, sex as God intended is limited to marriage between one man and one woman. Period. The Episcopal Church has no right to broaden the definition. Neither do Bill Clinton, Newsweek, Oprah or HBO. Don't let moral relativism infect your brain.

2. Don't sell your birthright. Losing one's virginity used to be a serious issue, but today fornication is just a standard sitcom plot device. It's considered normal. People are considered weird if they didn't have sex by age 14; and if anybody dares to teach abstinence in a public school he is labeled a Neanderthal.

In TV shows like Desperate Housewives, Nip/Tuck or Grey's Anatomy, life revolves around who's in bed with whom. There's even a TV series on Showtime called Californication that follows the life of a sex addict. What TV producers don't usually explore are the consequences of immorality. Audiences probably wouldn't laugh if the couples hooking up on these shows had to deal with genital warts, gonorrhea, AIDS, abortions, post-abortion trauma or clinical depression—all real fallout from illicit sexual behavior.

If you are a single person today—whether you have lost your virginity or not—it's time to reclaim your purity and save sex for marriage. We've forgotten the story of Esau, who forfeited his birthright through one stupid act. He traded his inheritance for a bowl of stew. You really can throw your life away through one act of fornication.

3. Get ruthless with your weaknesses. Jesus sounded stricter than a Catholic school principal when He talked to His disciples about self-discipline. He told them: "If your right eye makes you stumble, tear it out and throw it from you; for it is better for you to lose one of the parts of your body, than for your whole body to be thrown into hell" (Matt. 5:29, NASB).

Jesus was not advocating self-mutilation. He was using sarcasm to emphasize how serious sin is—and He urged His followers to take radical steps to avoid the snares of temptation. In our sex-soaked society, it is more imperative than ever that we draw boundaries.

Got a problem with pornography? If you can't discipline yourself to avoid offending Web sites, get rid of your computer. Do you end up engaging in heavy petting or intercourse with your girlfriend or boyfriend after a few minutes of kissing? Draw lines and stick to them. And if you can't stick to the rules, ask for intervention. If you don't you are headed for spiritual shipwreck.

4. Live a transparent life. The Bible never advocates that we battle sin alone. We need each other. James 5:16 says: "Therefore confess your sins to one another, and pray for one another so that you may be healed." In some cases you will never get victory over temptation until you share your struggle with another Christian and seek counsel and prayer.

So many believers today are living with secrets. Many women (and men too) were molested as children by a relative or friend—yet they have never shared their pain. Many young guys are trapped in a dark world of pornography and masturbation but are too ashamed to admit it. Many Christians struggle with same-sex attraction yet they fear that if they confess their thoughts they will be rejected.

You will never discover the abundant life Christ promised until you clean out your spiritual closets and deal with all your dirty laundry. Total forgiveness and cleansing is available, but confession and repentance must come first.

5. Develop the fear of God. Paul had sober words for the Thessalonians who ignored his admonitions about sexual sin. He told them: "He who rejects this is not rejecting man but the God who gives His Holy Spirit to you" (1 Thess. 4:8). It couldn't be clearer: If you disregard sexual boundaries, you are on thin ice.

What we desperately need in the church today is a conscience awakening. Too many Christians have warped judgment—and they don't even feel godly remorse when they break God's law. If you have any form of sexual sin in your life, flee it immediately and make a 180-degree turn. He will grant you the grace to live a life of purity.

 J. Lee Grady is editor of Charisma.

Source: http://www.charismamag.com/index.php/fire-in-my-bones/18953-staying-pure-in-a-fornication-nation

With less than two weeks left to mark the end of 2009, one cannot help but reflect on how 'good' or 'bad' a year they had. And for those of us who had a bucket list of resolutions, we fearfully go over our lists to see what kind of progress we made. As you think about what you had hoped to achieve, and compare this to what you ACTUALLY managed to do, the reactions are; either pat your self on the back for attaining your goal or PANIC, beacuse you have two weeks left and have not done half of what you prmoised.

It may be the season to be jolly, but even as I observe my girlfriends, with the pressures women have today- to be a mother, a wife, build a career many feel that they fall short. We often give ourselves deadlines, marked either by a duration(2 months etc) or a date (31st December).

So I feel myself worrying about the things I did not get done. And in all honesty, this fact has been dampening my holiday mood. But I keep reminding myself that I have to try again, if I did not succeed the first time. It's easier said than done, but trust me, there's no need to throw the idea of resolutions out the window, simply because you have not kept them. They help us focus on what we want, and  we can evaluate how far we have come, and what more we need to do.

 

Go ahead and jot down your resolutions. And in the coming year, make an ETRA effort to stick to them.

Scientists at Reading University have published research that points to a possible link between the use of antiperspirants and rising rates of breast cancer.

Over the past 25 years, cases of breast cancer in Britain have doubled from about 20,000 a year in the late 1970s to almost 40,000 a year now.

During that period, deodorants have become very common in Britain. So what are the risks, and is there a way of eliminating them?

* What is the theory about a link between breast cancer and antiperspirants?

Antiperspirants contain chemicals such as zirconium and aluminium that are taken up through the hair shaft or pores in the skin, where they react with water and swell. This swelling forms a gel that blocks perspiration.

As perspiration releases toxins from the body, researchers originally thought that blocking it could lead to a build-up of toxins in the lymph nodes in the armpit - and, over years, contribute to cancerous changes nearby, in the breast.

Researchers now think there may be another way in which antiperspirants may increase cancer risk. In lab tests, aluminium and zirconium have been found to enter cells and cause mutations in DNA that could lead to cancerous growth. They may also disrupt hormone levels.

* Aren't the levels of these chemicals too low to cause a problem?

Researchers say more work needs to be done on whether the small quantities of the chemicals found in antiperspirants may be dangerous. Yet small amounts used over a lifetime could have powerful effects.

Researchers also point out that breast cancer tumours - in women and men - tend to occur in the upper- outer section of the left breast.

* What other evidence is there for a link?

Statistics may suggest a link. Britain has one of the highest rates of breast cancer in the world and every year almost 13,000 British women die from it.

Britons are also among the biggest users of antiperspirant deodorants, getting through £300 millionworth of bottles each year.

The rising incidence of breast cancer in men may also suggest a connection. Breast cancer in men has doubled in the past three decades to 300 cases per year - a time frame that coincides with the increasing use of underarm products by men.

* Is there concern about children and teenagers using antiperspirant?

Philippa Darbre, senior cancer researcher at Reading University, says use of these products in prepubescent and teenage children should be 'a cause for concern'.

Aluminium and zirconium may disrupt hormones - and unnecessary exposure to these at an important time in a child's development could damage health in a way that we don't yet know about.

* Which brands of antiperspirants contain suspect chemicals?

Leading brands such as Sure, Right Guard, Dove and Lynx all contain aluminiumbased and/or zirconium-based compounds. As these are the two main sweatblocking chemicals, it's hard to find an antiperspirant without them.

* Do deodorants also cause a risk?

As deodorants mask odour rather than block perspiration, they contain neither aluminium or zirconium compounds. Many deodorants use strong perfume to mask the smell of sweat.

Synthetic perfumes such as artificial musks and preservatives such as parabens are known to accumulate in the body and disrupt sex hormones - a factor that in itself may raise breast cancer risk.

* Is there a safe way of staying odour-free?

No natural products act as antiperspirants to block sweat. Deodorants containing natural anti-bacterial agents and perfumes can reduce body odour without the risk that synthetic chemicals pose.

Health food shops sell deodorant 'crystals' made of ammonium alum. This is a natural salt that prevents the bacteria responsible for causing bad odour from growing.

Other natural deodorants, such as those by Greenpeople, contain zinc ricinoleate, a natural compound that 'locks' odour onto the skin's surface so it doesn't become airborne and smell. They also contain rosemary and lavender.

Because natural ingredients are weaker than synthetic versions, these deodorants tend to work for only six hours.

* So should women throw away their antiperspirants?

Not necessarily. The link between antiperspirants and breast cancer is still theoretical. Specialists are keen to point out that breast cancer is caused by many factors, including lifestyle, diet and heredity, so it is difficult to isolate just one cause.

Dr Jane Flemming, family doctor with a special interest in women's health, suggests switching to deodorant only if you are at higher than average risk of breast cancer and feel genuinely concerned.

'This link has not yet been proven,' she says. 'At this point, women need to use their own good judgment over this issue.

Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-185071/How-safe-antiperspirant.html

by Caron

You know the feeling. Your relationship with your husband is just okay. You can't put your finger on why, but the bacon's not sizzling. At this point, you have two options: One, keep your marriage on cruise control and hope for the best; or two, pull over, lift the hood, and check the spark plugs.

In our 22 years of marriage, I've experienced plenty of days where the sparks simply fizzle. But when the occasional day sputters into months of marital mediocrity, it's time for a tune-up.

I used to blame the sad state of our union on everything from our house full of teenagers to my husband David's passionate involvement in his chosen vocation. But as draining as those situations can sometimes be, I finally discovered it wasn't our lack of time together that created our biggest problems. Instead, it was usually my attitude that kept all cylinders from firing. I've learned that when I eliminate these troublesome attitudes, my marriage starts sizzling instead of fizzling. Yours can, too!

Guys Don't Need Emotional Support.

One of the things that attracted me to my husband, David, was his inner strength. He supported me through all kinds of challenges, rarely expressing any needs of his own. Once high-maintenance children arrived, David's low emotional requirements came in handy for me. Then two of his long-time friends and coworkers resigned, and less than six months later, David underwent another major vocational setback. For the first time in his life, David's confidence was in the basement. My Superman became vulnerable, and I was forced to take back the red cape and bullet-proof vest I'd unconsciously assigned him at our wedding. Though it made me feel uncomfortable, it was crucial I listen to his comment, "I need you to let me be needy sometimes." Fortunately for David, his crisis lasted just long enough to do its work in me, too. I had to grow up, become less demanding, and commit myself to asking about the condition of his heart a minimum of once a week. Now when David shows signs of fatigue, silence, or distraction, I know he may be nearing an emotional drought. If I'm patient enough to draw him out, the sharing refreshes us both.

Show Me The Money!

When I stayed home full-time, money was the hot topic of many late-night debates with my husband. In the wee hours of the night, I'd pledge compliance with the budget, but once David cooled off, I'd slip back into overspending, complaining, and pouting. Ignoring the financial realities of our marriage sent a clear message to David: "You'll never make enough to satisfy me." My lack of cooperation frustrated and demotivated him. When we added a second income, our balance still barely budged. Eventually I had to face the fact that the problem was with me, not my bank account. To improve my concept of money, I've asked David to walk me through the budget every few months to remind me of our financial commitments and goals. Seeing it in writing helps me follow through.

After 23 years of marriage, my friend Susan has improved her outlook in this area by taking over the responsibility for paying the bills. Recently she said, "It's given me a new level of financial confidence and motivated me to make better choices."

I've Got A Better Idea.

My husband, David, is an optimist who sees life in technicolor. So to prevent him from overdosing on all that bliss, God gave him me—a naturally gifted, flaw-finding female who's always "just trying to make things better." If he did a project, I improved it. If he told a story, I made sure he got the dates and times accurate. If there were a field of Perfectionism, I would have had my doctorate.

Eventually, David's pot boileth over, and he replayed in graphic detail embarrassing scenes of my negativity and nitpicking. After years of trying to change my destructive relational habits on my own, I spent time with a professional Christian counselor who helped me realize the roots of my critical nature—and manage my emotional patterns. Now, when critical words begin to surface, I'm learning to communicate my fears and relinquish my need for control to the Lord.

… Into Sizzle!

I Love You, But I Love Me More.

I'm a night owl. Translated, this means: I like to sleep late. For years, I was convinced I couldn't wake up early. So even on his day off, I persuaded David to get up and take the kids to school. I was selfish and often took advantage of his willingness to serve me and his desire to preserve the peace in our relationship. I often pressured him to deny his need to socialize in favor of my more urgent need for solitude. I regularly put my desires above his needs, taking far more from him than I was giving.

Jesus spoke to self-centered tendencies when he said, "As I have loved you, so you must love one another" (John 13:34). I can't die for my husband as Jesus did. But I can die to myself. One way I work at this is by concentrating more on David's joy than my sacrifice. Getting up early is still hard for me, but now instead of whining about it, I promise myself an afternoon nap.

With The Kind Of Day I've Had … Don't Count On It.

Like most wives, you probably have days when you're too drained to enjoy sex with your husband. You accumulate stress like an emotional shopping cart that careens through the day gathering conversations and complications that squash any desire for intimacy. So while your husband prances around at bedtime, fluffing pillows and whistling "Midnight at the Oasis," you've still got "groceries" to unload. You may need to unload—but if you haven't done it by lights out, it's too late.

One way I've learned to lighten my load is through writing lists. I'm not a natural listmaker, so it took some practice. But now I make lists of things to remember to tell David about the house, the children, and the church. I also list things I need to get done as well as concerns to take to God. Most of my stress came as a result of these items rolling around loose in my mind. Writing things down gives my concerns a resting place, enabling me to initiate and enjoy lovemaking more freely.

However, my children didn't always fit neatly on a list—especially when they were young. I delighted in being a mother, so I became an avid student of child behavior, reading book after book on breast feeding, toilet training, and character-building. But as motherhood soared, my marriage slid. We didn't lose our love, but we did lose some valuable ground we'd worked hard to gain. God blessed the wedding before the womb; I'm learning it's my responsibility to recognize that order with more than just mental assent.

Some days the business of life must come before pleasure. But don't bankrupt your bedroom by making it a habit.

If I Can't Count On You, Whom Can I Count On?

In the early years of our marriage, I put tremendous pressure on David to meet all my needs. I expected him to rush home from work, help with the kids, talk to me for hours, and fill the leaky hole in my heart. Much to my frustration and disappointment, David failed to fix me or the things that stood in the way of my happiness. I wanted David to be God. Lucky for me, he wouldn't cooperate! This forced me to go kicking and screaming to my heavenly Father, who taught me that I get in trouble every time I expect too much from my husband and too little from God. Psalm 5:3 helps me adjust when I start to run out of bounds: "In the morning, O Lord, you hear my voice; in the morning I lay my requests before you and wait in expectation."

Not long ago, David, donned a tuxedo and boutonniere, and joined our boys in grins and whistles as I emerged from our bedroom in a long black evening dress. As cameras flashed, David surprised me with a giant bouquet and a shining limousine waiting outside. We giggled and kissed as the chauffeur drove us to the park for pictures. Maybe it was our apparel—or the flowers I carried—but I really think it was how we looked at each other over dinner and snuggled on the horse-drawn carriage ride that made people ask, "Did you just get married?"

"Are you kidding?" we answered. "Today is our 20th wedding anniversary, and we've never felt more in love!"

After years of living, learning, and attitude-adjusting, our marriage was more than just okay. We were cruising full-speed ahead. And by the time breakfast rolled around that next morning, our bacon had not only sizzled—it was burned to a crisp!

Caron Loveless is a freelance writer who lives with her family in Florida.

Source: http://www.kyria.com/topics/marriagefamily/marriage/healthhome/9w2048.html

 

Hi Divas.

is there someone on this blog who can help me if i have apersonal ploblem. not financial and not to meet,just to communicate with.